First, you should make plans to go and talk to someone at your school's career center (if they have one) or your guidance counselor. It's these people's job to give you advice about things like this, and they are experts at it. They can look through how you've done at school and give you more personalized advice.
Besides that... right now, it's too late to apply for most universities. However, you have plenty of time to apply to community college for next year if you want to go. You can go to community college for two years and then transfer to a university if you've gotten good grades. There are probably also a lot of technical school programs you can still apply for if you are interested in that kind of thing. Again, go ask your school's guidance office.
The tips that I would give you are to make sure you study something you really enjoy and also something that will help you get a job. Some fields of study just aren't practical when it comes for looking for a job in them - comparative literature and art history are two examples from my university. You could look through the classfieds from your area newspaper, find jobs you might like, and see what kind of training they are looking for from people applying. Then, you'll have an idea of what kind of study you need to get a job you'd like.I am a 18 girl getting ready to graduate from high school and was looking for some good advice about school?
Hi 18 girl, congratualtions ! You would probably be a great writer, if your teachers could teach you. You should major in English, concentrate in urban grammar, and become a famous ebonics writer. You could promote the downfall of the language really well ! Another idea would be to write an expose on the quality of your education .I am a 18 girl getting ready to graduate from high school and was looking for some good advice about school?
You should pursue a course you are interested in, don't listen completely to what other people say. After all, since you are the one who will be facing the books, you have to make sure you really like the subject to do well.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Best advice for potty training a 3 yr old boy and 2 yr old girl?
My son was potty trained within a month before he turned 3 years old.....Nothing worked .....i tried bribing him and giving him candy and so on but nothing worked!!! Finally we did complete cold turkey and let him go in his pants and shortly after a week it really worked! It sucked that first week cleaning up the mess but it worked!!! I'm hoping my daughter is much easier then he was!Best advice for potty training a 3 yr old boy and 2 yr old girl?
I used good ole fashioned bribery and it worked great. My son loves Dibs ice cream so I would give him one everytime he went and it worked like a charm. Oh and the cool musical potty helped a little. But remember, kids are stubborn....if they aren't ready, they aren't gonna do it. Good luck!!Best advice for potty training a 3 yr old boy and 2 yr old girl?
Ditch the pull ups.
Pull ups only confuse the child into thinking their still wearing a diaper (they pretty much are) and prolongs any progress.
I agree, ditch the pull-ups except at night. They don't like the feeling in their pants, so they will learn pretty quick. It's the only thing that worked for me.
I used good ole fashioned bribery and it worked great. My son loves Dibs ice cream so I would give him one everytime he went and it worked like a charm. Oh and the cool musical potty helped a little. But remember, kids are stubborn....if they aren't ready, they aren't gonna do it. Good luck!!Best advice for potty training a 3 yr old boy and 2 yr old girl?
Ditch the pull ups.
Pull ups only confuse the child into thinking their still wearing a diaper (they pretty much are) and prolongs any progress.
I agree, ditch the pull-ups except at night. They don't like the feeling in their pants, so they will learn pretty quick. It's the only thing that worked for me.
What should i do i need help (rather it be advice from a girl or a pro at this)?
well im having a problem deciding what girl i should be with well theres my kind like gf she wants to put our realation ship on hold until she falls in love with me she says but this girl means the world to me and theres this other girl who is like a really good friend to me but i always wanted to be with someone like her cause she wants love as much as i do and shes willing to give me and her a chance soo umm i very confused soo what should i do please help me because im torn between these girlsWhat should i do i need help (rather it be advice from a girl or a pro at this)?
Pick the good friend.
Pick the good friend.
I want to get more toned without bulking up, any advice for a girl.......and drinks like protein powder...???
I usually work out 3-5 times a week. I try to do 30 mins of cardio and 45-60 mins of weights. Some people have said I shouldn't work out longer than 60 mins every day otherwise I'm overdoing it. But I have also been told to do at least 30 mins or more plus cardio in one day. What is the best routine to loose a little weight and tone up my body. I am pretty lean now just want to be more toned, not muscle looking buff. Also, will drinking protein powder help fill me up during the day and help with my muscles? I get super hungry all day when I constantly am working out and don't want to be snacking all day. Or are there any other powders, supplements I should be taking to help tone......etc.
ThanksI want to get more toned without bulking up, any advice for a girl.......and drinks like protein powder...???
you are fine training how you are doing it. i say dont work out for more than 60 minutes, but i am talking about weight training OR cardio.. if you do both in 1 session, then you are fine, your overall time shouldnt be more than 1 1/2 hrs though.. i like to weight train first, then do cardio. this way, i am fresh and can lift more, then when i do cardio after, i get good blood flow to my muscles, and you also tend to burn more fat calories when you do cardio after weight training. this is because weight training burns up your muscle glycogen. when you hop on the cardio machine afterwards, your body has to turn to fat stores for energy.. as for protein shakes, i believe in them. i do not use them as substitutes for meals, they are supplements. plan a good sound diet, then use protein shakes as supplements to your diet. you can use them as snacks in between meals.I want to get more toned without bulking up, any advice for a girl.......and drinks like protein powder...???
Women can't build muscle like guys - they don't produce enough testosterone. Don't be afraid of heavier weights - higher intensity exercise burns more fat. Whey protein should only be used for your post-workout shake. Eat 5 to 6 small meals per day - high protein, low carb, low gl.
Women have 1/10 the testosterone that men do, so pretty much no matter what you do, you will not get big and muscular. Even if you were on that path, it would take so long (years) that you could notice when you were happy with your size (tone) and change your routine.
You don't need to do 30+ minutes of cardio everyday to cut body fat. You said you were already lean, so you may not need to do cardio at all. Lifting weights with 1 minute between sets and 2 minutes between exercises will get your heart rate up and could be all the cardio you need.
You should be lifting weights at anywhere between 8 and 12 reps per set to get the best results. If you are doing the super light dumbbell for a bunch of reps, stop. That won't get you anywhere. Think about it like this, you can wave your arms around until your shoulders are tired, but it won't ';tone'; your shoulders.
Also, drink your protein shake either during your workout or within 20 minutes from finishing your workout, this is when your body is absorbing the most protein.
I made a series of videos for women on how to tighten, firm and tone their butt with some exercises here http://www.associatedcontent.com/video/26959/get_a_tight_firm_tone_butt_with_lunges.html
The first one I linked you to is on lunges, but there is are 5 videos.
Good Luck!
You should try Pilates. Pilates work on core strengthening without bluking up your muscles. I reccomend signing up for some Pilates mat classes.
If you don't like it, try yoga.
continue what you do it sounds like your dedicated, and you will tone up....drink water!! water will help curb some of your hunger as well as help you lose fat/become tone. use lighter weight but do more reps.
Hey I'm a guy and I tone pretty much but I know a girl who uses this website:
http://www.fitness.com/exercises/
She finds it really easy to do the excercises (i mean easy to understand) and she was able to lose 10kg in 3 weeks. Try some of them, they do work.
alright i work out tha same amount of times as u. when someone tells u that u are over doin yourself by workin out over 60 minutes they dont know. everyone is different. i do 45 minutes cardio and 60 to 90 minutes weights. with tha protein shakes i drink muscle milk. it gives u 40g of protein per shake. what u need to do with this is take your body weight and times it by 2 and that is how many grams of protein u need to take. most supplements will work different on people so go to GNC or a good supplement store and see what they would recommend
i am well hench, but i am a boy, i usually do loads of situps they help to lose flab if you have any and pushup build biceps and stuff like that
use low weights to not bulk up.
Really, I think it depends on your body type. I am 5 foot 9 and a size 3 and find I have to use way heavier weights on a consistant basis to show good tone because of my long muscles, while my best friend is 5 foot 2 and if she uses any more than 5 lb weights she looks like the hulk.
hey kristin, what i suggest for lean muscle development is 30-45 mins of weight training every second day using a pyramid method. which means doing your weights like this.....1st set of 10 reps...2nd set of 15 reps 3rd set of 20 reps and final set of 10 reps. so for example 10 reps of bicep curls, followed immediatly by 10 reps of lap pull downs followed by 10 reps of bench press etc. ...... then 15 reps of each and so on. the idea is that it starts out easy so dont start with something you can only just lift. also its better if you cant finish each set, so say you do all your first 10 ok but once you get to 15s you can only do 14 thats ok infact that better it just crucial you try it means your not lifting too light. muscles basically can be broken down into 2 types, endurance..and power. power are the bulk muscles so your trying to build the endurance muscles, which by nature wont ever be as big as the power ones. as for protien shakes and snacks, personally i think for leaning off and defining muscle protien shakes are a waste of time and money. if you get hungry during the day you need to eat with your intensive excercize your muscles need fuel, so the trick is to give them what they want. for what you are trying to achieve here is a basic days food log for you that you can modify to suit your own tastes and schedule.
5 am
walk 30 mins
10mins at level 3 exersion 2 mins at level 5.. 3 mins at level 7(almost a jog at this stage) 5 mins at level 8 (now jogging) 3 mins at level 9, 2 mins at level 10(as absolutely hard as you can) back to level 8 for 2 mins, level 7 ,3 mins.... and the final 5 mins just a strole home nice and easy. this will kick you off for the day your body will start out fired up and stay that way all day.
05.30-06.00
eat breakfast within 30 mins of your morning excercize(the sooner the better)
some examples....poridge with 1/2 a banana sliced in it... a piece of toast (on rye) with a poached egg and tomato....
09.00
1st snack......a handful of raw nuts..almonds are the best...or...a small tin of tuna in brine not oil....a serve of rice crackers
12.00
lunch.... a rye sandwhich with salad and tuna or low fat meat....a fruit salad with a spoon of natural youghurt on top....normal garden salad with some cheese and balsamic vinager.
4 pm
2nd snack.... a tub of youghurt, fruit, or anything on the snack 1 list
dinner
after your evening workout
basically salad and meat.....no pastas, no carbs at all just healthy and if you cant be bothered on the odd ocassion just have baked beans and eggs its still really low in bad fats.
and the best part of all.........
monday.
morning walk/run
evening weights
tuesday
morning walk/run
evening abs workout 30 mins
wednesday
morning walk/run
evening...NOTHING YAY
thursday
morning NOTHING!!
evening workout
friday
morning walk/run
evening cardio
saturday
morning walk/run
evening workout
sunday
ABSOLUTLY NOTHING
AND EAT ANYTHING YOU WANT
doing this tricks your body......it gets complacant and thinks ok well all this food is good so i dont have to do anything....having a day you do what you like means it will go crazy trying to fix what you do and your metabalism will never level out and loose efficiancy. but remember if you go CRAZY you have to work it off later
hope thats a help and sorry its so long lol
drew
ThanksI want to get more toned without bulking up, any advice for a girl.......and drinks like protein powder...???
you are fine training how you are doing it. i say dont work out for more than 60 minutes, but i am talking about weight training OR cardio.. if you do both in 1 session, then you are fine, your overall time shouldnt be more than 1 1/2 hrs though.. i like to weight train first, then do cardio. this way, i am fresh and can lift more, then when i do cardio after, i get good blood flow to my muscles, and you also tend to burn more fat calories when you do cardio after weight training. this is because weight training burns up your muscle glycogen. when you hop on the cardio machine afterwards, your body has to turn to fat stores for energy.. as for protein shakes, i believe in them. i do not use them as substitutes for meals, they are supplements. plan a good sound diet, then use protein shakes as supplements to your diet. you can use them as snacks in between meals.I want to get more toned without bulking up, any advice for a girl.......and drinks like protein powder...???
Women can't build muscle like guys - they don't produce enough testosterone. Don't be afraid of heavier weights - higher intensity exercise burns more fat. Whey protein should only be used for your post-workout shake. Eat 5 to 6 small meals per day - high protein, low carb, low gl.
Women have 1/10 the testosterone that men do, so pretty much no matter what you do, you will not get big and muscular. Even if you were on that path, it would take so long (years) that you could notice when you were happy with your size (tone) and change your routine.
You don't need to do 30+ minutes of cardio everyday to cut body fat. You said you were already lean, so you may not need to do cardio at all. Lifting weights with 1 minute between sets and 2 minutes between exercises will get your heart rate up and could be all the cardio you need.
You should be lifting weights at anywhere between 8 and 12 reps per set to get the best results. If you are doing the super light dumbbell for a bunch of reps, stop. That won't get you anywhere. Think about it like this, you can wave your arms around until your shoulders are tired, but it won't ';tone'; your shoulders.
Also, drink your protein shake either during your workout or within 20 minutes from finishing your workout, this is when your body is absorbing the most protein.
I made a series of videos for women on how to tighten, firm and tone their butt with some exercises here http://www.associatedcontent.com/video/26959/get_a_tight_firm_tone_butt_with_lunges.html
The first one I linked you to is on lunges, but there is are 5 videos.
Good Luck!
You should try Pilates. Pilates work on core strengthening without bluking up your muscles. I reccomend signing up for some Pilates mat classes.
If you don't like it, try yoga.
continue what you do it sounds like your dedicated, and you will tone up....drink water!! water will help curb some of your hunger as well as help you lose fat/become tone. use lighter weight but do more reps.
Hey I'm a guy and I tone pretty much but I know a girl who uses this website:
http://www.fitness.com/exercises/
She finds it really easy to do the excercises (i mean easy to understand) and she was able to lose 10kg in 3 weeks. Try some of them, they do work.
alright i work out tha same amount of times as u. when someone tells u that u are over doin yourself by workin out over 60 minutes they dont know. everyone is different. i do 45 minutes cardio and 60 to 90 minutes weights. with tha protein shakes i drink muscle milk. it gives u 40g of protein per shake. what u need to do with this is take your body weight and times it by 2 and that is how many grams of protein u need to take. most supplements will work different on people so go to GNC or a good supplement store and see what they would recommend
i am well hench, but i am a boy, i usually do loads of situps they help to lose flab if you have any and pushup build biceps and stuff like that
use low weights to not bulk up.
Really, I think it depends on your body type. I am 5 foot 9 and a size 3 and find I have to use way heavier weights on a consistant basis to show good tone because of my long muscles, while my best friend is 5 foot 2 and if she uses any more than 5 lb weights she looks like the hulk.
hey kristin, what i suggest for lean muscle development is 30-45 mins of weight training every second day using a pyramid method. which means doing your weights like this.....1st set of 10 reps...2nd set of 15 reps 3rd set of 20 reps and final set of 10 reps. so for example 10 reps of bicep curls, followed immediatly by 10 reps of lap pull downs followed by 10 reps of bench press etc. ...... then 15 reps of each and so on. the idea is that it starts out easy so dont start with something you can only just lift. also its better if you cant finish each set, so say you do all your first 10 ok but once you get to 15s you can only do 14 thats ok infact that better it just crucial you try it means your not lifting too light. muscles basically can be broken down into 2 types, endurance..and power. power are the bulk muscles so your trying to build the endurance muscles, which by nature wont ever be as big as the power ones. as for protien shakes and snacks, personally i think for leaning off and defining muscle protien shakes are a waste of time and money. if you get hungry during the day you need to eat with your intensive excercize your muscles need fuel, so the trick is to give them what they want. for what you are trying to achieve here is a basic days food log for you that you can modify to suit your own tastes and schedule.
5 am
walk 30 mins
10mins at level 3 exersion 2 mins at level 5.. 3 mins at level 7(almost a jog at this stage) 5 mins at level 8 (now jogging) 3 mins at level 9, 2 mins at level 10(as absolutely hard as you can) back to level 8 for 2 mins, level 7 ,3 mins.... and the final 5 mins just a strole home nice and easy. this will kick you off for the day your body will start out fired up and stay that way all day.
05.30-06.00
eat breakfast within 30 mins of your morning excercize(the sooner the better)
some examples....poridge with 1/2 a banana sliced in it... a piece of toast (on rye) with a poached egg and tomato....
09.00
1st snack......a handful of raw nuts..almonds are the best...or...a small tin of tuna in brine not oil....a serve of rice crackers
12.00
lunch.... a rye sandwhich with salad and tuna or low fat meat....a fruit salad with a spoon of natural youghurt on top....normal garden salad with some cheese and balsamic vinager.
4 pm
2nd snack.... a tub of youghurt, fruit, or anything on the snack 1 list
dinner
after your evening workout
basically salad and meat.....no pastas, no carbs at all just healthy and if you cant be bothered on the odd ocassion just have baked beans and eggs its still really low in bad fats.
and the best part of all.........
monday.
morning walk/run
evening weights
tuesday
morning walk/run
evening abs workout 30 mins
wednesday
morning walk/run
evening...NOTHING YAY
thursday
morning NOTHING!!
evening workout
friday
morning walk/run
evening cardio
saturday
morning walk/run
evening workout
sunday
ABSOLUTLY NOTHING
AND EAT ANYTHING YOU WANT
doing this tricks your body......it gets complacant and thinks ok well all this food is good so i dont have to do anything....having a day you do what you like means it will go crazy trying to fix what you do and your metabalism will never level out and loose efficiancy. but remember if you go CRAZY you have to work it off later
hope thats a help and sorry its so long lol
drew
Does anybody have advice for a 16 year old girl, whose mother and father has never been in her life. What shou
What should I do? I have so much sadness and grief in my heart. But, i shouldn't be upset, because i am good girl...i don't party, never drank or smoke in my life. I make very good grades. I am indeed bless. But, i still have a hole in my heart. By not having a mother or father figure...i tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. I really need some good and heart to heart advice! Thank you!Does anybody have advice for a 16 year old girl, whose mother and father has never been in her life. What shou
I know how u feel being that my mother abandoned me and daddy was hardly there. My grandparents raised me to be a good woman. All you can do is ask God to heal your wounded heart. There is nothing u can do about it now. Its all in your past. Be the best person you can be. And when the time comes for you to be a parent, you be the best parent you can be. I dont know what the situation is that your parents were never there. Thank God that you are living a good life. And by all means, do not let this destroy you. Pray for your parents night and day. Forgive them for not being there, and then live your life to the fullest. Hope this helps.Does anybody have advice for a 16 year old girl, whose mother and father has never been in her life. What shou
Write a list of things that you have accomplished or that you do well. Include the little things and things you are grateful for. Keep it handy so when you get blue, that will help cheer you up and remind you of what's important. People can overcome their failed childhood. You might want to try some counseling. Each of us is worthy and it seems like you have a lot going for you. High school is very tough and things will get better when you don't have those pressures as well.
I'm so proud of you!!!!!! Now days abstinence form drugs,and alcohol is very difficult for a young girl your age; you are ahead of your game!!!
count your blessing!!!!!! If you really ask, we all have something sad to deal in our lives. my father died when i was a baby and my mother was not able to raised me ,so i went with my grandmother,my aunt, my sister, anyone that would have me. The secret is: Not focusing in what you have been thru; but focus what happened IN YOU while you been there ; this is the lesson that matter.
where have all this adversity taking you in your short life?? and what is the tool you have today that most of the young girls your age do not have. You strike me as a very mature and with some wisdom and you can became very successful in your life.
My advise to you today is:Jesus!!!!
without him; you are like a soldier in the desert without shade or water.
remember this: what does not kill you makes you stronger. I'm sorry what happened to you; but show your parents that you are worth of their attention; get up!! dust yourself and focus on what you can do for yourself. God bless you sweetie and i will be praying for you.
Sweetheart, you need Jesus. He is the mender of broken hearts.
I think you are doing a great job so far in being a good girl and I think the best thing you can do is to try to forgive in the bottom of your heart their lack of support for not being there for you. It's not good for your health to keep grieving for something that is beyond your control. Unfortunately we can't choose our relatives but we can choose our friends, and we can have them as role models.
I came alone to the US when I was 18, I didn't know English, I was very naive and I was an illegal immigrant. I came to live with an aunt who got marry and moved to another state a year later. I was completely alone here. I had to be smart to not let people to take advantage of me. I was humiliated and mistreated. I could easily become a bad girl or blame my parents from not supporting me or for allowing me to be in this vulnerable situation, but I didn't. I believe things happen for a reason and we just need to learn to make the best of each situation. Was it difficult? Yes, it was, but on the other hand it made me stronger.
Today, with the help of my close friends who are now considered ';my family';, I am educated, have a good job and I am a permanent resident. God put obstacles in our lives, but if we learn how to overcome them, we will encounter happiness. Love who loves and supports you and forgive others for not appreciating what you have to offer. That's an easy way to continue your life without regrets or developing self-esteem problems. Personally I think you鈥檙e in the right track! Good Luck!
I am sorry that you have to go thru that. Noone should have to. I am guessing that you have awesome adopive parents who would give the world for you.
Being 16, it seems like the whole world wil end if something doesn't go the way you want. Being 28, things happen and there isn't much you can do about it sometimes. You just have to keep your chin up and keep going.
Stay strong, you will get thru it.
Just keep doing what you're doing, one day you will meet the guy who will fill that vacancy (lol almost said 'will fill that hole' but caught it)
Look around you are there anyone that has qualities that you would have liked to have seen in your parents?
Those people are being put in front of you for a reason.
I do not want to sound like a preacher or nothing i'm really not the church going type,but i do believe in God, If those things are missing then ask for better guidance.
Your Mom and Dad made a decision,right or wrong.
it is sad and you have a right to be upset.
But the chances of it changing anything are really slim.
They made their choice now make yours to find the happy side of life.I hope this helped if not Im sorry and will say a prayer for you.
im so sorry u dont have a mom or dad i know how u feel when i wuz 1 i was taken from my mom %26amp; never seen my dad %26amp; was rased by my grand parents e-mail me at flossyboi2007@yahoo.com
See if they'll invite you to their next swing party.
You might just be able to establish an incestuous relationship with them both!
Then you will no longer feel left out.
All that I can tell you is one day you will wake up and realize that the issue is theirs and they are the ones that missed out. Be grateful for who you do have and the life you have been give because it really could have been worse.
Who raised you or had an impact on your life? Start trying to view them as your parent. I spent a lot of years up set because I did not have a father even though my uncle was right there the whole time. Now, I see that I was actually lucky.
The best advice I could give would be to stay positive and strong. I never knew my dad. I know it really doesn't compare to having neither parent there, but for what it's worth, I had similar feelings towards my dad growing up. I thought to myself, ';I'm a good kid....I don't party or do drugs, make good grades, etc...so why would my dad not want anything to do with me?'; I've come to realize that it wasn't about me. It was more about him. You're still able to grow up and be a responsible, strong, independant adult. Think of it as what THEY are missing out on and less about what you're missing. Take care, and god bless
i have a feeling you know who jesus is and if you allow him to come into your heart, i promise that hole will be filled. Your experience is different from anyone elses and its the way we deal with it that makes us who we are. I believe everything happens for a reason and not having your parents has propably made you a VERY strong person and they would be proud. Pray to God that he will fill your hole.
You said it yourself you are blessed, because apparently you do HAVE had good parental figures in your life for you to have turned out so well. Whether they be grandparents, aunt and/or uncle, friends that have raised you, it's because they love you as their own, they are your mother and father. Talk to them or a school counselor or a priest at your church about your feelings. I will pray that you find peace
As far as I can see, you have being behaving extremely good and positive, so there is nothing to be ashamed of. My advice, let the past pass, get a good husband, a man of commitment, and have kids, as many as both want, rise them for good and prosperity, and this may fill your empty heart.makeup video
I know how u feel being that my mother abandoned me and daddy was hardly there. My grandparents raised me to be a good woman. All you can do is ask God to heal your wounded heart. There is nothing u can do about it now. Its all in your past. Be the best person you can be. And when the time comes for you to be a parent, you be the best parent you can be. I dont know what the situation is that your parents were never there. Thank God that you are living a good life. And by all means, do not let this destroy you. Pray for your parents night and day. Forgive them for not being there, and then live your life to the fullest. Hope this helps.Does anybody have advice for a 16 year old girl, whose mother and father has never been in her life. What shou
Write a list of things that you have accomplished or that you do well. Include the little things and things you are grateful for. Keep it handy so when you get blue, that will help cheer you up and remind you of what's important. People can overcome their failed childhood. You might want to try some counseling. Each of us is worthy and it seems like you have a lot going for you. High school is very tough and things will get better when you don't have those pressures as well.
I'm so proud of you!!!!!! Now days abstinence form drugs,and alcohol is very difficult for a young girl your age; you are ahead of your game!!!
count your blessing!!!!!! If you really ask, we all have something sad to deal in our lives. my father died when i was a baby and my mother was not able to raised me ,so i went with my grandmother,my aunt, my sister, anyone that would have me. The secret is: Not focusing in what you have been thru; but focus what happened IN YOU while you been there ; this is the lesson that matter.
where have all this adversity taking you in your short life?? and what is the tool you have today that most of the young girls your age do not have. You strike me as a very mature and with some wisdom and you can became very successful in your life.
My advise to you today is:Jesus!!!!
without him; you are like a soldier in the desert without shade or water.
remember this: what does not kill you makes you stronger. I'm sorry what happened to you; but show your parents that you are worth of their attention; get up!! dust yourself and focus on what you can do for yourself. God bless you sweetie and i will be praying for you.
Sweetheart, you need Jesus. He is the mender of broken hearts.
I think you are doing a great job so far in being a good girl and I think the best thing you can do is to try to forgive in the bottom of your heart their lack of support for not being there for you. It's not good for your health to keep grieving for something that is beyond your control. Unfortunately we can't choose our relatives but we can choose our friends, and we can have them as role models.
I came alone to the US when I was 18, I didn't know English, I was very naive and I was an illegal immigrant. I came to live with an aunt who got marry and moved to another state a year later. I was completely alone here. I had to be smart to not let people to take advantage of me. I was humiliated and mistreated. I could easily become a bad girl or blame my parents from not supporting me or for allowing me to be in this vulnerable situation, but I didn't. I believe things happen for a reason and we just need to learn to make the best of each situation. Was it difficult? Yes, it was, but on the other hand it made me stronger.
Today, with the help of my close friends who are now considered ';my family';, I am educated, have a good job and I am a permanent resident. God put obstacles in our lives, but if we learn how to overcome them, we will encounter happiness. Love who loves and supports you and forgive others for not appreciating what you have to offer. That's an easy way to continue your life without regrets or developing self-esteem problems. Personally I think you鈥檙e in the right track! Good Luck!
I am sorry that you have to go thru that. Noone should have to. I am guessing that you have awesome adopive parents who would give the world for you.
Being 16, it seems like the whole world wil end if something doesn't go the way you want. Being 28, things happen and there isn't much you can do about it sometimes. You just have to keep your chin up and keep going.
Stay strong, you will get thru it.
Just keep doing what you're doing, one day you will meet the guy who will fill that vacancy (lol almost said 'will fill that hole' but caught it)
Look around you are there anyone that has qualities that you would have liked to have seen in your parents?
Those people are being put in front of you for a reason.
I do not want to sound like a preacher or nothing i'm really not the church going type,but i do believe in God, If those things are missing then ask for better guidance.
Your Mom and Dad made a decision,right or wrong.
it is sad and you have a right to be upset.
But the chances of it changing anything are really slim.
They made their choice now make yours to find the happy side of life.I hope this helped if not Im sorry and will say a prayer for you.
im so sorry u dont have a mom or dad i know how u feel when i wuz 1 i was taken from my mom %26amp; never seen my dad %26amp; was rased by my grand parents e-mail me at flossyboi2007@yahoo.com
See if they'll invite you to their next swing party.
You might just be able to establish an incestuous relationship with them both!
Then you will no longer feel left out.
All that I can tell you is one day you will wake up and realize that the issue is theirs and they are the ones that missed out. Be grateful for who you do have and the life you have been give because it really could have been worse.
Who raised you or had an impact on your life? Start trying to view them as your parent. I spent a lot of years up set because I did not have a father even though my uncle was right there the whole time. Now, I see that I was actually lucky.
The best advice I could give would be to stay positive and strong. I never knew my dad. I know it really doesn't compare to having neither parent there, but for what it's worth, I had similar feelings towards my dad growing up. I thought to myself, ';I'm a good kid....I don't party or do drugs, make good grades, etc...so why would my dad not want anything to do with me?'; I've come to realize that it wasn't about me. It was more about him. You're still able to grow up and be a responsible, strong, independant adult. Think of it as what THEY are missing out on and less about what you're missing. Take care, and god bless
i have a feeling you know who jesus is and if you allow him to come into your heart, i promise that hole will be filled. Your experience is different from anyone elses and its the way we deal with it that makes us who we are. I believe everything happens for a reason and not having your parents has propably made you a VERY strong person and they would be proud. Pray to God that he will fill your hole.
You said it yourself you are blessed, because apparently you do HAVE had good parental figures in your life for you to have turned out so well. Whether they be grandparents, aunt and/or uncle, friends that have raised you, it's because they love you as their own, they are your mother and father. Talk to them or a school counselor or a priest at your church about your feelings. I will pray that you find peace
As far as I can see, you have being behaving extremely good and positive, so there is nothing to be ashamed of. My advice, let the past pass, get a good husband, a man of commitment, and have kids, as many as both want, rise them for good and prosperity, and this may fill your empty heart.
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you have not given much information like why she took it,did she steal it?
if she did then ask for it back and if she won't give it back then you need in inform a teacher or a trusted adult or even the police.
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you have not given much information like why she took it,did she steal it?
if she did then ask for it back and if she won't give it back then you need in inform a teacher or a trusted adult or even the police.
Does this girl like me?! need advice, help me!?
Well Ive been on vacation %26amp; this girl that I like has sent me like 3 emails over the summer 2 see how I am doing, the last email she sent was about a page long, basically 5 things I noticed she said
1 - She says she'll consider dating me and winks, but says just joking.
2 - She says she misses me
3- She states, when I comeback, she'll deck me out in sexy clothes for back to school lol *rolls eyes*
4 - She says, as soon as I get back, she's gonna call me.
5- She tells me how her whole day is going and what not
Here's my question, in the past she has tried to make me jealous with her b/f, but they broke up in June and that is when my feelings 4 her started 2 arise, however I told her I had somethin important 2 tell her, but since I left 4 vacation I couldn't. She says stuff like, if i was single would u consider me ur g/f or meet me for dinner. I came home from vacation couple days ago, I recently called her and told her i like her, now shes pushing away and saying she needs space.Does this girl like me?! need advice, help me!?
She is confused with her love life!!!! She needs her time to think what she wants! Good Luck!!Does this girl like me?! need advice, help me!?
For some reason unbeknownst to any logical force in the universe, a girl will lose attraction to a guy whom is too heavily attracted to them. Which makes no sense at all, wouldn't the guy showing that he cares for you and likes you be the good choice? Sounds to me like you should back off a bit. Let her have her space for awhile. After a few days. See if flirting with her works out at all. If she's still sketchy go out on a date with another girl. The jealousy that could cause could work quite well in her favor because if she likes you she may realize that she may lose you to another girl.
Of course... all this is only hypothetical. Go with your gut. I'm not there to judge her reaction.
1 - She says she'll consider dating me and winks, but says just joking.
2 - She says she misses me
3- She states, when I comeback, she'll deck me out in sexy clothes for back to school lol *rolls eyes*
4 - She says, as soon as I get back, she's gonna call me.
5- She tells me how her whole day is going and what not
Here's my question, in the past she has tried to make me jealous with her b/f, but they broke up in June and that is when my feelings 4 her started 2 arise, however I told her I had somethin important 2 tell her, but since I left 4 vacation I couldn't. She says stuff like, if i was single would u consider me ur g/f or meet me for dinner. I came home from vacation couple days ago, I recently called her and told her i like her, now shes pushing away and saying she needs space.Does this girl like me?! need advice, help me!?
She is confused with her love life!!!! She needs her time to think what she wants! Good Luck!!Does this girl like me?! need advice, help me!?
For some reason unbeknownst to any logical force in the universe, a girl will lose attraction to a guy whom is too heavily attracted to them. Which makes no sense at all, wouldn't the guy showing that he cares for you and likes you be the good choice? Sounds to me like you should back off a bit. Let her have her space for awhile. After a few days. See if flirting with her works out at all. If she's still sketchy go out on a date with another girl. The jealousy that could cause could work quite well in her favor because if she likes you she may realize that she may lose you to another girl.
Of course... all this is only hypothetical. Go with your gut. I'm not there to judge her reaction.
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