I've only had one boyfriend, and our relationship lasted 3 years, so i'm not really sure how to read guys with the whole dating process since i don't have much dating experience. i've been hanging out with this guy for a few months, and he finally asked to take me out to dinner (we're going in a few hours). All his friends tell me that he likes me, but he keeps telling everyone that he doesn't want a girlfriend. If he doesn't want a girlfriend, then why is he taking me out to dinner?Advice for a college girl.?
Just because he doesn't want a girlfriend doesn't mean he doesn't like girls. Boys like girls. Obviously, haha...Once you're in college, having a boyfriend/girlfriend is alot more serious than a high school relationship. He might want to date you, but not make the commitment of being your boyfriend yet. From what you've said it seems as though he really does like you and wants to get to know you more. If you guys continue to hang out and enjoy each other's company, and he starts to like you on a deeper level, this may be what changes his mind about wanting a girlfriend. He likes you, but doesn't want to jump into a commitment yet. :)Advice for a college girl.?
i'm 22 outta school for about 3 months now so i'll tell ya its 1 of 2 things.
Either he's lying about not wanting a gf
or
he would like to lay some groundwork and increase his chances of hooking up with you. He DOESN'T want 1 gf, he'd like to have you as 1 of a few options to call on a friday/saturday night.
If you want to find out i guess go to dinner and note how often he asks you about your plans for the weekend, if you drink, party, etc. That might tip you off on where his heads at.
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I really like this girl, and need some advice?
theres a girl in my math class that i like. Ive been into her for a month or so and a few days ago i saw her in the library and decided to chat with her. I talked about the upcoming math test, and how her halloween was, and all seems good. I see her the next day in math class and i notice she is more comfortable around me. Im not just the dude who sits next her she dont know. so we take the test and this takes up most of the class, after the test we chat about it a bit,then we just chat about various things for a while and i suddenly start getting nervous. i hope it wasnt too obvious but i think it may have been. i start havin trouble making eye contact, so i back down a bit. after i screw my head back on, we begin talking again. we get on the topic of driving after she compliments my car, and she tells me about the one time she drove and what a disaster it was. i laugh and she says it was her boyfriends car. i was almost positive shes single. maybe she is just trying to slow me down?I really like this girl, and need some advice?
yea sound like you started thinking to much while you was talking. let me guess you started thinking is she watching you , am i laughing at her jokes when i should be. Some times its get that way if you talk to a person who really responds well to you but is expecting a response from you , unlike a girl who would just talk and just keep talking. Its all in your head but since you like this person so much you dont want to say anything that might mess it up. Just relax, and find things to do with her so the conversation wont get to personal too early. once you get to know her better your flaws, would be easily accepted , have a good oneI really like this girl, and need some advice?
thank you , hell two best answers so far lol, my second day on the job lol, just call me the love doctor
Ask if she has a boyfriend or not. If she does, there is nothing wrong with being just her friend.
you have to let the girl how you ffeel, i mean you will never know if tehy liked you unless you do something, and you will never know if there could of been something, so do what your heart tells you, but i think you shood let her know how you feel. Good Luck hope everything works out
Instince babes instice if it feel dodgy in some way there a good percentage it is. I always follow my gut instinct never failed me yet!
Good Luck hun
Claire x
Forget it, she definitely has a boyfriend, has happened to me a billion times. Be her platonic friend and spend a few years waiting it out.
and don't try to outcompete her bf, you'll lose.
srry man, the facts of life
You sound very nervous! Just keep your calm and keep doing what you are doing. It sounds like you are on the right path. Good Luck!
yes she is so ask her is she presently dating any 1 since u 2 r having such casual conversation. if she asks y let her know that she was not dating any 1 that u r interested n dating her on occassion if she is interested.
might be an old boyfriend
press on laddie, what's the worst that can happen.
ask her about her bf.
Is ZoomZoom on Billy WhizWhiz? - stay off the crack man
ask the girl if she'd like to go out and see what she says!
Just friendship she wants
Listen here man, stop being such a sissy, women hate men who cannot hold there ground! women are like sharks... once they smell blood they attack
look at the kids at school... do the kids who are ******* get hott girls? NO! you have to be a man... stand your ground women love men who have some control on them... women love hearing the word ';NO'; so stop being such a pussy and go ******* mack on that girl seriously... its better then what you are doing now? face it... she doesnt even know your name... pussy is better then your right hand .... god gave you a dick so use it.... sissy *** homo
If she has a boyfriend...how comes that she went into ur car? try to analize this things coz...she might not be a honest girl after all. Some girls just for vanity likes to have kids after them...they give hope to everyone and play with everyone.
Be carefull and asker straightforward wether she has a bf or not..good luck!
Yup...... But there is a possiblity that after spending time with u, she might be attracted 2 u...... Give her some time. If u really like her wait for her 2 be single again. If u just ask her out now, ur chances won't be 2 good cos she has a bf. GOOD LUCK!
yea sound like you started thinking to much while you was talking. let me guess you started thinking is she watching you , am i laughing at her jokes when i should be. Some times its get that way if you talk to a person who really responds well to you but is expecting a response from you , unlike a girl who would just talk and just keep talking. Its all in your head but since you like this person so much you dont want to say anything that might mess it up. Just relax, and find things to do with her so the conversation wont get to personal too early. once you get to know her better your flaws, would be easily accepted , have a good oneI really like this girl, and need some advice?
thank you , hell two best answers so far lol, my second day on the job lol, just call me the love doctor
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Ask if she has a boyfriend or not. If she does, there is nothing wrong with being just her friend.
you have to let the girl how you ffeel, i mean you will never know if tehy liked you unless you do something, and you will never know if there could of been something, so do what your heart tells you, but i think you shood let her know how you feel. Good Luck hope everything works out
Instince babes instice if it feel dodgy in some way there a good percentage it is. I always follow my gut instinct never failed me yet!
Good Luck hun
Claire x
Forget it, she definitely has a boyfriend, has happened to me a billion times. Be her platonic friend and spend a few years waiting it out.
and don't try to outcompete her bf, you'll lose.
srry man, the facts of life
You sound very nervous! Just keep your calm and keep doing what you are doing. It sounds like you are on the right path. Good Luck!
yes she is so ask her is she presently dating any 1 since u 2 r having such casual conversation. if she asks y let her know that she was not dating any 1 that u r interested n dating her on occassion if she is interested.
might be an old boyfriend
press on laddie, what's the worst that can happen.
ask her about her bf.
Is ZoomZoom on Billy WhizWhiz? - stay off the crack man
ask the girl if she'd like to go out and see what she says!
Just friendship she wants
Listen here man, stop being such a sissy, women hate men who cannot hold there ground! women are like sharks... once they smell blood they attack
look at the kids at school... do the kids who are ******* get hott girls? NO! you have to be a man... stand your ground women love men who have some control on them... women love hearing the word ';NO'; so stop being such a pussy and go ******* mack on that girl seriously... its better then what you are doing now? face it... she doesnt even know your name... pussy is better then your right hand .... god gave you a dick so use it.... sissy *** homo
If she has a boyfriend...how comes that she went into ur car? try to analize this things coz...she might not be a honest girl after all. Some girls just for vanity likes to have kids after them...they give hope to everyone and play with everyone.
Be carefull and asker straightforward wether she has a bf or not..good luck!
Yup...... But there is a possiblity that after spending time with u, she might be attracted 2 u...... Give her some time. If u really like her wait for her 2 be single again. If u just ask her out now, ur chances won't be 2 good cos she has a bf. GOOD LUCK!
I have girl trouble?! need quick advice?
ok, i have a girlfriend and i kinda like her (she's my first girlfriend) but i really like this girl whose like my best friend, i've thought about breakign up with my current girlfriend and asking by girl best friend but i'm afraid that that would ruin our friendship and i would hate to lose her freindship but then again i don;t want to hurt my first girlfiend because she's so nice and sweet i need advice!?I have girl trouble?! need quick advice?
i had exactly the same problem . and i broke up with my gf and went out with the best friend. when we broke up it ruined our relationship so i would say keep it kool. and stay with ur current one things are better that way. maybe just talk to your best friend about it. but no further than that is my advise.
good luck .I have girl trouble?! need quick advice?
if u really like her u should stay with her a little bit longer
but dont show that u like ur friend
whatever you do, honesty is key. don't do anything rash, or something you might regret later. weigh the options in your head of who you care about more, who you'd rather be with and who you could live without. but again, i plead, don't sneak around. express your true feelings to your girlfriend if you decide not to be with her. however, you must realize there is no way around someone getting hurt in this situation.
are you a lesbian
with the whole not wanting to ruin the friendship thing....i completely understand that...my last bf and i were friends first, and my current bf and i were really great friends first...but think about it this way...you've already changed ur friendship with her if your thinking of her as more than a friend...and whether it hurts ur gf or not u need to do whats right otherwise ur only gonna hurt both of u....
if ur current girlfrnd is nice as a girlfrnd then trust me shez really nice n u never know what if this best frnd becomes a pain in the as* when she gets the girlfrnd status (thay always do). atleast right now u get the best of both ends n theres nothin wrong in casual flirtin.
see if this best frnd responds positively , if she does then think of breakin up with ur currrent .
they always say 'patience is a virtue my girlfrnd, ..... oh i mean frnd ...... too much of the girlfrnd word .... made me sick already'
as a girl, I know what it feels like to have a guy dump you for your friend. tell your girlfriend that it isnt working out the way you hoped it would and that youd still want to be friends. then wait for her to get over you before you make your move on her friendmakeup video
i had exactly the same problem . and i broke up with my gf and went out with the best friend. when we broke up it ruined our relationship so i would say keep it kool. and stay with ur current one things are better that way. maybe just talk to your best friend about it. but no further than that is my advise.
good luck .I have girl trouble?! need quick advice?
if u really like her u should stay with her a little bit longer
but dont show that u like ur friend
whatever you do, honesty is key. don't do anything rash, or something you might regret later. weigh the options in your head of who you care about more, who you'd rather be with and who you could live without. but again, i plead, don't sneak around. express your true feelings to your girlfriend if you decide not to be with her. however, you must realize there is no way around someone getting hurt in this situation.
are you a lesbian
with the whole not wanting to ruin the friendship thing....i completely understand that...my last bf and i were friends first, and my current bf and i were really great friends first...but think about it this way...you've already changed ur friendship with her if your thinking of her as more than a friend...and whether it hurts ur gf or not u need to do whats right otherwise ur only gonna hurt both of u....
if ur current girlfrnd is nice as a girlfrnd then trust me shez really nice n u never know what if this best frnd becomes a pain in the as* when she gets the girlfrnd status (thay always do). atleast right now u get the best of both ends n theres nothin wrong in casual flirtin.
see if this best frnd responds positively , if she does then think of breakin up with ur currrent .
they always say 'patience is a virtue my girlfrnd, ..... oh i mean frnd ...... too much of the girlfrnd word .... made me sick already'
as a girl, I know what it feels like to have a guy dump you for your friend. tell your girlfriend that it isnt working out the way you hoped it would and that youd still want to be friends. then wait for her to get over you before you make your move on her friend
Advice for a single girl?
I've been single for 2 years. i'm a goodlooking girl, go out most weekends, but i hardly ever get chatted up. Girls any advice for me, lads any advice on how to approach you's.Advice for a single girl?
It's obvious that no one worth your time has come up to you yet. Don't be discouraged and don't settle just because someone shows you some attention. Don't over sell yourself, it looks like you're desperate. Present yourself confident yet approachable.Advice for a single girl?
Have fun! Single is better then being in a relationship. You just have to learn to flirt with guys!!
just do it, keep me informed
Ask yourself a few quick questions. Are you piling on the pounds? When was the last time you gave O to completion, when was the last time you did it outdoors, or in front of a movie, or in the car, when was the last time you let him have anal, or did something daring in public, or let him spank you, or use toys or make a movie!!.... You had better start to pleasure him whenever, wherever, however he wants, or face a long lonely miserable life without him, re living this experience with man after man till you lose your youth and figure and end up fat twisted bitter and religious hag, posting bile and shite on here about morals and all men a bastards.....good luck!
my email is gysgtmdawg@yahoo.com
email me someday.
maybe i'll get a B/J......
Pick a guy out then play hard to get. That will usually get a man's motor runnin'. He'll then think he has to go out of his way to prove something to you.
mm don't talk to much and be yourself, don't keep looking for guys they will look for you.
repeat these exact words to a guy ';Hey (insert guys name here)'; and if you get a little red thats ok it shows you like us
email me and see whats up baby.....
If you see a good looking guy, don't be afraid to go over and make the first move. I'm single, and I would Love if a girl made the first move, it shows you are interested.
Be more outgoing in front of guys. Dont be shy.
It's obvious that no one worth your time has come up to you yet. Don't be discouraged and don't settle just because someone shows you some attention. Don't over sell yourself, it looks like you're desperate. Present yourself confident yet approachable.Advice for a single girl?
Have fun! Single is better then being in a relationship. You just have to learn to flirt with guys!!
just do it, keep me informed
Ask yourself a few quick questions. Are you piling on the pounds? When was the last time you gave O to completion, when was the last time you did it outdoors, or in front of a movie, or in the car, when was the last time you let him have anal, or did something daring in public, or let him spank you, or use toys or make a movie!!.... You had better start to pleasure him whenever, wherever, however he wants, or face a long lonely miserable life without him, re living this experience with man after man till you lose your youth and figure and end up fat twisted bitter and religious hag, posting bile and shite on here about morals and all men a bastards.....good luck!
my email is gysgtmdawg@yahoo.com
email me someday.
maybe i'll get a B/J......
Pick a guy out then play hard to get. That will usually get a man's motor runnin'. He'll then think he has to go out of his way to prove something to you.
mm don't talk to much and be yourself, don't keep looking for guys they will look for you.
repeat these exact words to a guy ';Hey (insert guys name here)'; and if you get a little red thats ok it shows you like us
email me and see whats up baby.....
If you see a good looking guy, don't be afraid to go over and make the first move. I'm single, and I would Love if a girl made the first move, it shows you are interested.
Be more outgoing in front of guys. Dont be shy.
Girl Trouble! plz need advice!?
Ok i really like this girl and she likes me but i lose words when im around her (common). And im not trying to fake her or nething and i know i do it. How do i get rid of it. I really wanna shake it. Also she seems kinda shy and not very open how do i get her to open up to me lol never had this bad of girl truble before plz help.Girl Trouble! plz need advice!?
Have a funny face contest... When it's your turn, pretend you're having a seizure. Roll your eyes back into your head. When she stops laughing and seriously asks, ';are you okay?'; continue, and add a little more drama. Fall to the floor. When she bends down to check on you and touches your face, grab her. Smile and tell her it was just bad gas. Promise her you'll never have a double bean burrito again for lunch.
All should be fine after that. Good luck and remember to floss daily.Girl Trouble! plz need advice!?
hey there!
that's awesome that she likes you! congrats! :D you've conquered one of the harder problems!
i guess when you talk to her, think about what you're gonna say before you open your mouth, and take it slow. just talk slower (i dunno. i tend to talk really quickly when i'm nervous.)
if you want her to open up... ask her things about herself. talk about her favourite things... television shows, movies, sports... whatever she's interested in. she'll have something to contribute to the conversation, and then she'll eventually ask you things about yourself. and theeen... LET THE CONVERSATION FLOOW! XD
hope this helps xx
PS: once the conversation gets going, possibly about movies, just slip in a 'hey, i really wanna see that movie! it comes out next week, right? wanna go see it?' :D all the best
Well for one thing, you can't make her just ';open up';, you have to let her do that in her time. I've already had that problem! As for the other, man just try and play cool, I know its hard but you have to be relaxed. If your tense, she'll be tense. Just remember, IF YOUR TENSE SHE'S TENSE!!!
start talking to her about common stuff like the homework for a class (assumming your in school) or a television show that had recently came on and the more you talk to her about simple things the more comfortable you feel talking about feelings and such.
OK, you need to take a deep breath, meet on neutral territory and just try not to concentrate on how nervous you are as that will make things seem worse, show that you have a general interest in her without apprearing like a ';stalker'; (as that is NOT attractive) and let nature take its course, if its meant to be then it will work! and do NOT pressure her, keep things light and relaxed. :-) goodluck!
some of the stuff these other ppl are saying is tru... but really find out more abt her tho from like friends... if you kno stuff that she does too shes more likly to open up to you also
Well don't be shy go for it maybe ask her out on a date if you don't take risks you ain't living so say i can do this and take her out on a nice date
Have you tried laying off the caffeine?
only one thing for it... tell her!
I would think it kinda sweet if a guy told me he really liked me and got nervous and couldnt talk well around me because of it.
what have you got to lose? she may blow you off but then again she may not.
And as for her being stand off-ish...maybe she is having the same problem.
OK just be your self .she is shy because she has no experience
meeting boy , you lost your ability to make action this time ,try next time .
If you are sure she likes you. Invite her to your house to watch a movie or something. Don't make any moves the whole time she is there. But sit really close, maybe put your arm around her. When she leaves, walk her out. It's more comfortable when no one else is around during this. Open her car door for her. Before she gets in, ask something along the lines of ';Would it freak you out if I gave you a kiss?'; or ';I really want to kiss you right now.'; Say these things as if you are half joking, it won't be as embarassing if you get shot down. Good luck man.
U just need to relax. U get nervous because u feel anxious and that will mess u up big time. When u see her b4 u say anything take a breath and calm ur nerves. If it helps just take things slow until ur words come out right. Then once u open up to her it will be easier and maybe she will return the favor
Have a funny face contest... When it's your turn, pretend you're having a seizure. Roll your eyes back into your head. When she stops laughing and seriously asks, ';are you okay?'; continue, and add a little more drama. Fall to the floor. When she bends down to check on you and touches your face, grab her. Smile and tell her it was just bad gas. Promise her you'll never have a double bean burrito again for lunch.
All should be fine after that. Good luck and remember to floss daily.Girl Trouble! plz need advice!?
hey there!
that's awesome that she likes you! congrats! :D you've conquered one of the harder problems!
i guess when you talk to her, think about what you're gonna say before you open your mouth, and take it slow. just talk slower (i dunno. i tend to talk really quickly when i'm nervous.)
if you want her to open up... ask her things about herself. talk about her favourite things... television shows, movies, sports... whatever she's interested in. she'll have something to contribute to the conversation, and then she'll eventually ask you things about yourself. and theeen... LET THE CONVERSATION FLOOW! XD
hope this helps xx
PS: once the conversation gets going, possibly about movies, just slip in a 'hey, i really wanna see that movie! it comes out next week, right? wanna go see it?' :D all the best
Well for one thing, you can't make her just ';open up';, you have to let her do that in her time. I've already had that problem! As for the other, man just try and play cool, I know its hard but you have to be relaxed. If your tense, she'll be tense. Just remember, IF YOUR TENSE SHE'S TENSE!!!
start talking to her about common stuff like the homework for a class (assumming your in school) or a television show that had recently came on and the more you talk to her about simple things the more comfortable you feel talking about feelings and such.
OK, you need to take a deep breath, meet on neutral territory and just try not to concentrate on how nervous you are as that will make things seem worse, show that you have a general interest in her without apprearing like a ';stalker'; (as that is NOT attractive) and let nature take its course, if its meant to be then it will work! and do NOT pressure her, keep things light and relaxed. :-) goodluck!
some of the stuff these other ppl are saying is tru... but really find out more abt her tho from like friends... if you kno stuff that she does too shes more likly to open up to you also
Well don't be shy go for it maybe ask her out on a date if you don't take risks you ain't living so say i can do this and take her out on a nice date
Have you tried laying off the caffeine?
only one thing for it... tell her!
I would think it kinda sweet if a guy told me he really liked me and got nervous and couldnt talk well around me because of it.
what have you got to lose? she may blow you off but then again she may not.
And as for her being stand off-ish...maybe she is having the same problem.
OK just be your self .she is shy because she has no experience
meeting boy , you lost your ability to make action this time ,try next time .
If you are sure she likes you. Invite her to your house to watch a movie or something. Don't make any moves the whole time she is there. But sit really close, maybe put your arm around her. When she leaves, walk her out. It's more comfortable when no one else is around during this. Open her car door for her. Before she gets in, ask something along the lines of ';Would it freak you out if I gave you a kiss?'; or ';I really want to kiss you right now.'; Say these things as if you are half joking, it won't be as embarassing if you get shot down. Good luck man.
U just need to relax. U get nervous because u feel anxious and that will mess u up big time. When u see her b4 u say anything take a breath and calm ur nerves. If it helps just take things slow until ur words come out right. Then once u open up to her it will be easier and maybe she will return the favor
I'm in 11th grade and I need advice about a girl?
..and there is a girl in the 7th grade who I actually like. She really looks much older like a 9th or 10th grader and is very tall. We both attend the same school. She seems like a nice girl and I am wondering if there is any way I could go about dating her or letting her know I like her. I don't want to appear creepy and as I know some people will think this, I am going to say now - it is not about sex at all. If this is too unprecedented or bad I will abandon any attempt. I just would like others' advice about this.I'm in 11th grade and I need advice about a girl?
Oh I'm begging you please don't. I don't care how old she looks. The fact remains that she is a little girl. You are probably 4 or 5 years older than her which would be no big deal if you were in your twenties or up but you're not. It's actually sick and if you were to try and move forward with this, you would be looked at as a creep by everyone in school. I'm begging you not to do this.I'm in 11th grade and I need advice about a girl?
you should at least become friends with the 7th grader --- may be when she is older you guys can go out ..
Oh I'm begging you please don't. I don't care how old she looks. The fact remains that she is a little girl. You are probably 4 or 5 years older than her which would be no big deal if you were in your twenties or up but you're not. It's actually sick and if you were to try and move forward with this, you would be looked at as a creep by everyone in school. I'm begging you not to do this.I'm in 11th grade and I need advice about a girl?
you should at least become friends with the 7th grader --- may be when she is older you guys can go out ..
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What do i do next i need some advice on this girl that i like thanks?
Alright there is this girl at my work who is a cashier.She is in grade10.We have talked alot for a couple of weeks at work.Yesterday i gave her a rose that they were handing out at work for free.She said thank you for the rose.So after that i am like do you want to come see a movie with me.She is like yes.So i ask her how about next saturday. She said she can't, she has to go to her friends early halloween party.I asked her if we can go after halloween she said we will see.I asked her for her facebook. She gave it to me.I said to her in a message wats up do u like the rose that i gave you.She said lol yes.Do you think this girl likes me.What is the next move.She just told me that she has a other bf and just wants to remain friends what do i do now.But on her facebook page it says she is single.I also have her phone number.She has my phone number to.Should i call her or let her call me?What do i do next i need some advice on this girl that i like thanks?
she is trying to avoid you, but being nice at the same time
she is trying to avoid you, but being nice at the same time
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