Can someone give me some real advice about this girl i have feelings for?

now i have been talking to this girl for like 4 months were are not together we are just friends that have strong feelings for each other.....i told her that i really like her and she told me that she's thankful god has put me in her life....now she has two young kids i have both meet...they both like me so does her family....we haven't sex yet, im not worried about that cuz i care about her so much, but i have been kissing her all the time even kissed her in front of kids. now lately we have been going from kissing to hugs and kisses on the cheeks that's even coo with me...but last week we have been going back into kissing now, but again lately she just wants a hug that has me really confused but i know everyone she has every loved has did her wrong in the past, including her baby daddy....now last week i told her i would never hurt her and all i want is for her to be happy, but it seems to me that she still playing back a little.....so my first question is why do you think she taking so long with me to be in a relationship, and also why do you think she change up her way towards me...second question is what esle can i do or say to make her realize im tellin the truthCan someone give me some real advice about this girl i have feelings for?
1) I don't know how long it's been,But she may not be ready for a relationship 2) There is nothing you can do,The decision has to come from her and only her on whether or not to finally put her trust in you.Can someone give me some real advice about this girl i have feelings for?
hun,





i hope you know how to swim, cuz she is gonna drown you.


she is gonna put you under further and further the longer this goes on.


you need to talk to her about it and step up.


tell her EXACTLY how you feel.





good luck
She might be so hurt that all the guys in her life has hurt her that she is scared to trust anyone. She doesnt want to ruin you and hers friendship because you started going out. Just tell her you would never hurt her, and you will give anything to be with her.
For a woman who has been hurt it's hard to see a good thing go by.But it takes time I mean she has two kids that she has to think about.An the kids Father might just be more mess to come.Think hard about this PRAY HARD
I think its taking her so long is because shes been hurt in the past so shes scared.





Also maybe she doesn't want to fall again because she fell hard last time.





Let time pass only she can heal herself.
hold her face, look into her eyes, take a deep breath and say i love you. then give her the most amazing kiss :) sorted.
try and be a good friend to her shes obviously been hurt in the past and sooner or later she will relise u mean well and something will happen
Walk away as fast as you can. No time to explain. DON'T get played. Too much naivete. Tell her ';Goodbye.';
Just keep trying!
the fact that she's been hurt soooo much, its hard for her to let herself get close to any one else, bc she's afraid the past will repeat its self. i've been in her position, and all you can do is wait till she's ready to let her guard down for you...you cant rush that. if you truly care about her, you'll wait for her to be comfortable and let her realize on her own that your a genuine sweet caring man. but dnt give her reasons ever to not trust you or think that your going to hurt her. bc little things could possibly jus make her back off more...be yourself, show her that you care sooo much and let her come to you. reassure her constantly that your not those other guys...and how you feel.





good luck :)
Chris, if you really love this girl you will wait for her to come around, don't ask too many questions and let her come to you, she will tell you when she's ready, it seems like she's been let down a lot in the past and has to come to the conclusion that all men are the same, and she will have mixed feelings because you are being nice and gentle towards her, so just let nature take it's course and don't worry to much.
There are 2 things that are happening here. One, she is protecting herself from the possibility that you will hurt her or the kids later. That is something that she should not do.





two, maybe she really wants to wait to see how far this will go.





Unfortunately, the one and only thing that you can do is wait it out. If you really like her like you say you do, that is the only thing that you can do to make her realize that you are telling the truth.





Just be patient and she will come around. If you can't wait, have a serious chat and see where you stand.





I hope this helps!
First off keep doing wat ur doing ur not doing anything wrong. she has to have time to get over the past relationships and move on. you can help her by not being to pushy but just enough to show her you care. Shes taking so long because shes been hurt and she probably needs to kno if ur the right guy to be around her kids. She's changin up because she is confused and thinkin as you are, talk to her one night and try to get to the bottom of things. hope you stay with her.
first of all girls are complicated. from a boys point of view. maybe she was backing off a little because she wasn't too sure. maybe she's afraid of getting hurt again and wants to take things slow. give her some time and maybe do other activities to make her feel comfortable. like maybe going to the park with her kids or just taking a walk with her. if you keep on telling her that you care about her then that should be enough dont keep on tell her that or else she'll get annoyed. as long as she knows that you care for her than that should be enough. dont worry yourself. good things take time. hope it helps
well sounds like shes gotten her heart bbroken before, so i suggest u just take it slowly with her. just keep showing her tht u love and care for her and build ur trust with her. like maybe do things like buy he roses and just put them on her table, women love surprises (my dad just recently did thhis for my mom and she was so happy, it just shows tht u care and r thinking about her) and since she has kids and stuff, really bond with them and show tht u woud be a good dad, like maybe sit down next to them while there watching tv andd talk to them a little bit, call them 'buddy' or something cute. and u coud also offer to help around the house, maybe cook dinner for her, just take the load off her shoulders sometimes, single moms have it hard. and to answer ur questions, like i said before, shes had trust issues in thee past with men, so u have to show her tht u can be trusted, but this will just take time, just continue to show her tht ur there for her for everything. and the reason shes probably changing her ways towards u is because she may be having second thoughts on trusting aniother man again and getting deep into a relationship, she just doesnt want her heart to be broken again.


so bottom line, give her time and just continue to show her tht u are not like the her babies daddy and tht u can be trusted and u wont leave her. actions speak louder than words.
You said yourself that everyone she has ever cared for has hurt her. Well, I think that she is pulling back because she is scared. sometimes there is nothing you can say to move things along or change the way she is thinking, all you can do is show her how much you really care by just being there for her, and not pushing the situation, let her know that you aren't going anywhere and you will be there no matter how long it takes because she is worth waiting for. Where she has been hurt so much in her life, she is probably just being cautious and scared at the same time. I am sure she is protecting her heart, from being broken again. Not that you would break her heart, but after so many failed relationships, well, you tend to put a bit of a wall up around you, and your job would be to have the patience that she needs, and just be there for her, and I think slowly she will let you in.