a girl i have known for a couple of years has kinda hinted she would go out with me before she said i was not her type but seems shes changed her mind , but now shes got a baby i dont know what to doGirl asked me out advice?
haha, say NO. shes used goods mate...you don't need that crap do you? think about it, that will always be priority and its not even yours. you can do betterGirl asked me out advice?
Run, fast. She wants a daddy for her baby. Unless you want to be a father then dont bother dating her, it may sound mean but in all reality what she needs is a father for her child. Even if she doesnt want that to be you its better for her if you stay away and let her find a mate who can help her raise her child.
Unless you like the idea of being a father then by all means hang out with her, take it slow and realise that dating a girl with a kid should not be the same as dating a girl without a kid.
You both shouldnt be partying all the time and etc, so just keep these things in mind and realise it wont be a normal dating scenario.
OK couple of things. First off how long has it been since she broke off things with baby daddy? How long has it been since she has had her baby? In the time since she stopped dating baby daddy, has she dated anyone else (only important if the baby is less than a year old.) If any of the above has happened and the baby is still very young....then I would agree with the majority and say hold off...as she may be hormonal, emotional, scared, looking for security etc. If not, and if you feel that you have the maturity and willingness to pursue and become a part the this childs life if things go well, then go for it. I am very happily married to my wife of 10 yrs, and when she and I started dating she had a 6 yr old girl. I knew from my first date that I wanted to be a part of my wife's life and accepted her daughter as part of the package, and we have all been happy since. SO yeah, picture whether or not you want that responsibility and if you can see yourself in that role...both the good and the bad (as someone here stated, there are definately added preassures), and if you still think it may be worth it, then go for it...only remember that you also have to consider the childs feelings, and potential to get attached, so make sure you are not being played, and are not playing games. If you are not looking for a serious relationship then walk away. Like I said, I took the plunge and have never regretted it or looked back. It is one of the single best decisions I have made in my life. That said, you also need to make sure that she is not just trying to use you as a security blanket.
Good luck, and I hope this helps.
When a woman has a baby it comes with a big commitment so a proper relationship at this stage I think would be rather difficult. The question you need to ask yourself too is what about the child's father? Has he just left the mother offering no support or is he still seriously involved as a responsible parent?
You need to look closer as to why she rejected you initially and now suddenly she wants you. Watch that you are not being used as a fatherly substitute as you could be drawn in to a deep relationship which could prove difficult in the long term.
do yourself a favour and realise you are to young to be a dad and enjoy yourlife. she made the chioce to become a mum. and now she is grabbing anything that is interested in her so she can have someone to help her raise the baby. its not your decission to take care of her and the baby. she needs to be brave and do it herself. and you need to get out into the world and enjoy yourself. and have fun take care and stay her friend.
If you like her, go out with her. Just know that being with a girl who has a baby is a big commitment. Maybe she thinks your her type now because she needs someone there for her and her baby, or maybe she recently realized that you were good for her. Who knows, just roll with what you feel.
well the first question you must ask yourself is do you like her in that way?
then you must think if you could go out with her and whether the baby bothers you
depending on the answer depends on what you should say to her
dont mess her about be kind and considerate
hope this helps :)
Do you want to take on her kid too? Maybe she's on the lookout for a father for her child...?
You sound nervous about the idea, and the fact you're asking suggests to me you don't really want to go out with her...
I would say look for someone without kids, unless you really Really like her.
Do you like her? Do you want to go out with her? If you do in both questions then go out with her, but if you are thinking about a relationship with her you may want to take your time and go slow.
You were not her type and now you are.Did you pimp yourself? Don't agree but help her recognize herself and what she has missed out all this time.Be careful.She may also use you to cover up her misfortune.
do you like her? do you care that she has a kid? if you guys got serious, would you be willing to take the kid in as your own?
some questions to ask yourself
Leave that alone, she seems confused anyway and the last thing you need on your hands is a confused CHICK WHO IS PREGNANT! Go search elsewhere. There's more beautiful ladies in the water without kids.
I'd just not go out with her especially if your young because the baby will bring pressure to the relationship. I'm not saying babies ruin peoples lives, but if your young then it will not work out.
hit the hills pal. faster than a damn kraut running from a Flying Fortress. just the fact that shes got a baby is repulsive.
if she has a husband u should forget it if u don't ur going to make things worst for her
if shes single then help her out on her baby and feed him/her then she will feel ...... u no kinda loved
:)
good luk
With out the complete detail , No one can answer your question........But I can suggest you one thing Mary a girl soon before she blame you........
She changed her mind after she has her baby. Sound like she needs a sugar daddy.
That's a deal breaker man. She's looking for some guy to look after them both. If you're doubtful, don't do it. She's damaged goods!! Aahhh!! Chicky's right! Rruuunn!!
It sounds to me like she just wants help looking after the baby
So just go out with her , the important thing is she likes you now ......I wish you a nice time Katie :-)
There are planty of fish in the sea go look for antoehr one
3 words: BABY MOMMA DRAMA.
'nuff said. now ruuuuun!!!!!!!!!!
If You Like Her Then A Baby Shouldnt Get In The Way GO FOR IT!
Run to the hills
Run for your life
lmao...Don't fall for it.
mmm...how old are you? wait; nevermind. go out with her and go from there
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