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A bit complicated but you will understand why this is drilling a hole in my head. Okay I'm almost 25 and never had sex somewhat because of my faith but more so because i didn't want to get a girl pregnant. I met a girl and we automatically clicked and she was okay with me being a virgin. 2 weeks goes by and i ask if she would be my girlfriend, she says of course. We start fooling around and she was a bit upset at the end of the night. She said she wasn't sure if she could be in a relationship with someone who wouldn't have sex with her. The next day we are talking and after talking about the night before she says she cant do it. Anyways a week passed and I had a big talk with my brother about it and decided that now that i am almost 25 there should be no reason why i shouldn't be able to have sex as i can deal with any consequences of doing it, which was my big reason for not doing it in the first place. Now i know that if i go to talk to the girl i was seeing she will say that i changed for her, but that is not true at all, also i don't want to seem like an obsessed stalker. Any responses would be great.Please read, Need some good advice from a girl?
i really dont think she would think that anyway. she may actually be quite happy that you decided to reevaluate your situation and make a change. i dont think it sounds strange. i think you should talk to her again.Please read, Need some good advice from a girl?
I think you've made a decision and you should let her know. In the case of getting her pregnant that wont happen if you use some sort of protection. Just be careful because im sure she doesnt want to have a child yet either. But you should definitely call her and let her know and see what she says. If she tells you that she has planned to move on then let her...
If you are sure you want sex even though your faith does not agree, then go and buy a packet of condoms, put them in your pocket, ask the girl out for a drink, show her the packet and say that you have changed for her sake and she should be happy you want to please her.
Tell her the truth...its the only chance you have at this point. You have nothing really to lose considering she broke up with you for not having sex with her. I do think that you somewhat changed because of her but that is fine. Just go talk to her its better than not talking to her!
Just go and have sex with her





Seriously..... why should it matter if she thinks that u changed 4 her, wudn't that be a gud thing and wudnt she be happy cuz of that, i mean isnt that what she wanted in the first place





if she's happy then wudnt u be 2
hm.. i see!


this is a hard question.. uhm, well first off i wouldnt just come out and tell her youd sleep with her.. maybe hint it a little just tell her you've thought about it and you'd be willing to give it a go!


i dont really know.. sorry if im not helping much!..
Just go ahead and talk to her. If she truly likes you, she'll be willing to get back with you. If she doesn't accept that and acts like you're stalking her and ';changing'; for her, then she's not worth it.
Ok, maybe just tell her what u just said. Say i was afraid of getting u pregnant but after thinking about u decided to do it
It's like the 40 year old virgin movie. Except you told her. Women give sex to love. Men give love to have sex.
you should f*** a **** you personally know, and after that go find her because you'll understand what your doing better after your first time. Good luck!
just ask her if you can try it again!
I wouldn't see it as you being an obsessed stalker. It would probably show her that you really want to be with her and she's the girl that you can see yourself being with. But if that's not the case, don't do it.
If you really LOVE this girl and want to be with her, go for it.


I think it's great that you are not pressuring her, I would respect that! But if she wants this to happen and YOU do too, then go for it. Yeah you're old enough now to make you own decisions and if she means that much to you, that's cool. I completely understand your fear though, they are very valid!!


But you need to talk to her face to face now. Start by telling her how much she means to you and thank her for being so very patient. Say that you just had to be sure, and that now you feel that you are, and you are ready, then add ';if you are?';


If she cares about you enough, which it sounds like she does, and if she has known your reasons, then you have nothing to hide. Say you've been thinking alot about your relationship, and you are ready!


Good luck to you both :)
i don't think you'll seem like an obsessed stalker if you talk to her. the main thing that i think you should tell her is that you decided that you should have sex because you honestly feel in your heart that she's the right one.





but of course, i strongly suggest that you should pursue her only if you really want to sleep with her. if you've decided to sleep with her just so you won't lose her, you might end up regretting it later.





hope this helps!