Can you give me some advice on a girl whom I'm in love with but don't trust?

We have known each other for years but only recently have we become romantically involved. She moved out west this summer and stopped talking to me altogether, avoiding my calls, not answering emails or texts. I moved out west too for an unrelated reason and finally, after months void of contact, she calls me and says she wants to see me again. After dinner she awkwardly professes that she is very sorry for not calling and that she has always cared about me, but the reason why she disappeared is because she moved in with her old boyfriend over the summer. He left, and now she says she feels horrible about it, and wants to begin talking again. I love her. I have dated enough over the years to know when I've found someone special, but I don't know if I trust her. I don't want to be the guy that's there for her between boyfriends. I don't want to be the punchdrunk boy to fall back on when she's lonely. I can't accept anything less than knowing that her heart is mine. And mine is hers.Can you give me some advice on a girl whom I'm in love with but don't trust?
sounds to me like your in trouble, you see women like real men and your a bit of a pussy, sure she'll fall back on you when the real men mess her about , take some advice and a guarantee you will win her over for ever (in the long run) go out with her treat her good for a while then start to pull away show interest in other women, make her give you the keys to her back door (and yes i do mean what you think i mean) then soon after (next day is best) dump her, offer no explanation, be cool, don't return her calls wait until she is desperately chasing you ,(she will go through an angry stage hold your nerve) then and only then when she has just about given up all hope take her back, she will worship the ground you walk on for about 2/3 years before you have to treat her rough again, i know it sounds wrong but how many times have you said or heard ';why do the girls always fall for the bad ones?'; women love a REAL man, be one and you'll never look back (a thank you email ,when this works for would be welcome)Can you give me some advice on a girl whom I'm in love with but don't trust?
Spot/cheat/train trick/ Check her! If you don't trust her.. check her on something especial, Make up a lie! train some body and see what goes on with her... Love and marriage is the matter of a life time business.!!! before she breaks you heart! break her! if you think she cheats you!
She is just using you. Didn't take her long to find another boyfriend did it. So I wouldn't trust her at all.
Trust is the first step of love.
Love and trust go hand in hand.





If you can not trust her, then you can never truly love her.
The best way to resolve this is for the two of you to have an honest heart to heart talk. Clear the air of all suspicions and distrust once and for all before you go further into the relationship, otherwise you are just courting disaster.





To love someone, you need to trust that person - if you can't, then the relationship is going to be very insecure.





Can't help you other than to advise you to talk it out with her and find out if she is willing to commit herself fully to the relationship. If she cannot or is not ready for such a commitment, then you need to either wait till she is ready or find someone else.
tough man...but id say...**** it man...i love my girl too...and she has cheated...but i would never be second...**** that...i made her decide...me or him...she chose me...but man she just ****** with u...she went out there and got drilled everynight...and now that shes bored of that she realizes wat a jackass she has been and wants u back...dude...if u are going to take her back...because believe me i know what ur going through...so i also know...ur heart makes u do things that normally u wouldnt...so if ur going to take her back...at least let her feel the pain...say i need to think...then dont talk to her for a month...if she wants u let her show it...dont be second man...be number one...its the only way u will have respect for urself


good luck man...
I GUESS ALL I CAN SAY IS THAT I DON'T THINK YOU CANT B IN LOVE IF YOU DON'T TRUST. KNOW WHAT I MEAN? YOU HAVE TO HAVE TRUST IN ORDER TO B IN LOVE. OR @ LEAST IN MY EXPERIENCE. LET HER KNOW HOW YOU FEEL, THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO BE HER BACKUP PLAN. IF THATS HOW SHE FEELS THEN YOU SHOULDN'T BE WITH HER. OR PROBABLY SHE REALLY LIKES YOU, AND SHE CAN HELP YOU TRUST HER. SHE NEEDS TO KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. HOPE I HELPED


-JEN
You say you don't want to be a number of things to this girl if she only wants you to stop her being lonely .... well don't!.... because as far as I can see that's exactly what she's doing ..... it's unfair on you that you're in love with her ..... she isn't worth it .... how sure are you that you're in love with her .... after all if you really were then you'd find reasons/excuses to make to yourself to defend her actions ..... I believe you're in love with a past notion of this girl and your heart is trading on this ...... if you had found someone you felt the same/similar about this girl - would you be questioning her actions - or would you just forget about her? .... otherwise set yourself up for a big fall and accept the consequences when they happen .....
i ddidnt read what you wrote but if you dont trust in the first place ask your self you think you got future with that chick
if this girl is going to leave without telling you and then come back when she has no one else, i wouldn't come rushing back so soon. lay off for a while and agree to date other people. Then, you can see her true colors if she still sticks by you. :)
she's a jerk! today, she said she cares about you, the next day, she suddenly disappear again, the next day later, she makes you feel guilty, then, she disappear again, then sweet talk to make you melt, making you more falling in love with her even tough you're very piss at first, and then all of this kept going every single day if you kept sticking with her.. until one day, you felt like a puppet in one of her games, and suddenly regret all that happened.. my advice, act fast and there's other fishes in the sea..





(no hard feelings tough, i had experiences) :P
you got her by the balls, dont let go! you got to blow her off every now and then! dont let her know that you reeeaaaallly like her, make her come to you! and dont return her calls but maybe once a week.


unless she only wants sex, and thats very possible. pay attention for the signs and be ready.
You have to trust someone entirely to love them entirely.





Think about it.
Normally I would say what everyone above me has said. But since you sound like you really love this chick I will not make you feel bad by flat out telling you to forget about her.


This situation is going to be really difficult for you to get through. Since you love her, you can give her a chance to get back to ONLY you and her, BUT you WILL HAVE to lay down your 'cards' on the table. Lay out your conditions, because if you take her back not telling her how you really feel, it will hurt pretty bad later. Tell her that the trust isn't there for you right now, tell her that you really love her though and that she is willing to be with you and ONLY YOU, then you guys can give it a try. Tell her, also, that if there ever comes a time where she messes around with another guy, that you will be done. You have to make her know that you won't be the fall back guy.





It better be, you and her AGAINST the world. Not, you and her along with some of her guy friends on the sidelines AGAINST the world. It's either you and her alone, or nothing. Do and SAY whatever you need to say to make yourself feel like you can trust her again. Tell her everything and do not hold back for any reason! Just don't cover yourself in bloody meat and jump into the shark tank!





Good luck!
Hey forget about her and just start you own campaign of hate against women bang as many as you can and take pleasure in that fact that you are returning the pain back to women that they have dished out to you . After all it never pays to have a heart the more you give the more people take. So f**k it right