Please anwser!! i need your advice about this girl and this long situation (please read it)?

Ok so this might be long but please read it all and anwser :( ok so i met this amazing girl when i was 6 (That was a longggg im ago) and we use to play kissy catch ';when we were like 6-10'; and she wud stay still for me to catch her and all that but we never actually kissed :S and i stopped her from being hit by a car once when we were younger were younger, we were really close but one day i asked her out at a dance ';it was only a little one and we were only 10'; but she didnt trust me cos i was hanging out with like all these people who asked girls out and then just left them standin ';they later became chavs and smackheads'; and 2 days back i asked her why she said no and she said she thought i was lien and was thinking (why is he messin me around like this cos she wasnt really that fit but i still liked her) so we kept on hanging around like we normally did after school and by the time i was 11 my mum moved so we didn't see eachother for four years and we just got back in contact 2 months back and we been talkin on msn and that (i found her on facebook) and we met somewere bout 3 weeks back and i personally had a great time it was in the same spot we use to always hang around when we were younger but i learned alot abut her like her dad's mate was a peado and use to slip his tounge down her mouth from when she was like 8 or maybe younger and it only stopped like 4 months back when her dad found out and the whole thing sent her into depresion and she started hurting herself but stopped when people started noticein marks on her skin in p,e and also she was gettin bullied back when me and her use to be younger and i only found out like last month about both of these things otherwise i would of done something ';well nything i cud of done'; but i feel so bad about it cos i never noticed it and she was tellin me how she had to sit on her own nearly every lesson and how they would say things like ';we all know you fancy john (me) but he doesnt even like you cos your a fat ****'; and it just makes me feel worser cos they used my name against her and i really cared for her, and during the time we was apart and not in contact she dated this person but b/c she wasnt a **** she didn't want to shag him so he threatened her with weapons and raped her and im upset cos i couldnt be there for her or help her so i promised i wouldnt let anyone hurt her ever again (and she blushed) and i think i really like her and always have but theres a problem she is going out with this person and they been going out for almost a year now ';i know who it is i use to go to his school'; and im not sure what to do :( but it is sendin me into depression and she doesnt even deserve her there relationship is based on getting of with eachother all the time they barely ever talk and the person she is going out with is a prick becos he only got with her cos she (the girl i like) has gotten way more beautiful then she use to be and back then he never interacted or even talked to her at all and i really dont like him cos he gets a bunch of his mates together to play strip poker and she is the only girl there so i think he is disgusting for playin stripoker with his gf and loads of his mates but she says she loves him which really hurts me cos i think i might love her so what would you do in my situation (thanks for readin it i know it was long) (oh and if it helps me and her flirt sometimes but i dont think she (or anyone) actually take flirtin seriously)Please anwser!! i need your advice about this girl and this long situation (please read it)?
Well, you were certainly right. That was long. And your old town seems more violent than Glasgow. Anyway, Here is what I can offer:





Firstly, you needn't blame yourself for anything that happened to her. But if it lights a fire in you and you want to protect her, then do it. Just be wary. No matter how much she blushes when you promise to protect her, girls can get angry when the time comes and you intervene, should she feel embarrassed or otherwise. Women are often irrational.





Be careful not to voice your distaste for the new guy in her life. You're only 15 if I read that passage correctly. At that age, she won't be with him forever.





She will move on.





It might not be what you would like to hear, but the fact is the best thing to do is wait it out. It might drive you crazy, but it is best. Most young guys are horny and bored, and based on how you described him, he's just the same. If his disrespect towards her, her body, and her emotions persist - and only if they grow worse - should you say something.





If you wait it out and they break up, which is inevitable, be there for her. Women all like to hear the same things when they are broken up with. 1 - How awesome they are (to bolster their own esteem and self-worth) and 2 - How atrocious the old flame was.





Take note of all the awful ways he treats her and remember it for when they break up. You'll be able to use it.





In the mean time, talk to her often. Push your flirting further so that you're the first thing on her mind when they end their relationship.





And most importantly - you say that she has gotten more beautiful, having lost weight or however. Tell her that one day. Start by telling her you've always thought she was beautiful, even before. But that since you have seen her again she has blossomed and you can hardly believe how amazing she looks. And if you do tell her, also tell her something about her as a person that you fancy. Girls don't like to hear just about how they look.





So synopsis: Wait it out. Flirt a lot. Tell her how you see her. Keep an eye on the guy.





You'll do just fine.Please anwser!! i need your advice about this girl and this long situation (please read it)?
I think you should talk to her. Tell her how you feel and felt about her. Hopefully everything will work out!
i cant belive i took the time to TRY to read that story.
I think you should jump off a bridge
I can't read english.
hi John, your situation is really sad. it brought a tear to my eye and i very rarely cry. I think that this girl has been through soo much, things that nobody should ever have to go through. i was really taken back by this, it is obvious that you really love her. i think right now this poor girl needs something and someone that she can depend on to help her overcome her past, if this person that she is going out with is that person then let it be. but from the sounds of it he is another sick tw*t who is abusing her. i think you are what she needs to rebalance her life but do not take it lightly, she has changed allot in the years that you have spent apart. still i think she needs a guy who is not obsessed with sex, and will treat her rightly. if you can live up to the responsibility of a relationship with a girl who has had a rough past then by all means look after her and make sure that she always comes first. fist assess the situation and make sure that you are doing the right thing then make your move but don't be pushy or rash. i really hope that everything ends up all right, your a really nice guy she will be lucky to have you! its so nice to see people who care! good luck, i hope i helped!
keep hanging on and try not dop do anything rash. wait a bit to see if anything happens between them and react on that. if they break up, comfort her and try again. but if they get more serious, then just be there for her as a real friend.
Whoa Buddy, That was lonnngg.!





Honestly I think yoou should open up your feelings to her in the first place, you never know if she might feel the same way about you. Thats originally my opinion. Plus she knows you way more than HIM so you know her and you know what she does nd how she would react to it, OPEN UR HEART TO HER!!!
Try doing the whole cliched ';confessing your feelings'; thing. At least you'll know what's going on, and I think you have a decent chance. Her relationship with the guy seems destined for brevity anyway. I don't think there's any reason to be depressed, though. That's just stupid.
well, i guess the only thing you can really do is tell her how you really feel about, because obviously you care about her a lot. It may be hard but maybe she feels the same way about you and is just to scared to be hurt again if you said no. But, if she says you should only be friends you should just be good friends and that friendship could someday turn into something more. But if she says no and that never happens then be friends but maybe date other girls and you may find another girl that you may fall in love with too.
There are true childhood sweethearts. Those intended to be together and those who are not.


It seems that your friend has been through alot. Are you sure that your not trying to rescue her?


Personally I think you should just move on. Shes got alot of issues that she needs to get over. Plus she is in love with someone else. Being with you isnt going to solve anything. What if you get back with her and then she wants to leave. To me she not looking for a serious relationship right now. Just be careful and think about it.
I would wait untill he blows it. Then, pounce! No, really though. If their relationship is like that, sooner or later it will probabally fall apart and you go and comfort her and wen shes recovered tell her how you feel and see what she says and if she says no, dont take it personallly because youll always cherish your childhood memories. P.s-she will too (:
damn did i actually read all this damn i am good.


back 2 yr problem i think u should rescue her from her bf maybe she want 2 be his gf coz he is popular i heard about stories really bad ones maybe he and his mate r planning 2 gang bang her idk i think he doesn't like her or love her make a move tell her that u r scared that she get hurt again she already have been raped if i was u i would tell her i am scared that she get hurt and 2 leave the guy but wait awhile after she leave the other guy and then make yr moves tell her every thing from the past.


i really feel bad 4 u.


i wish u the best in this.
So i'm not sure how old you guys are exactly, elementary or high school since i jsut skipped through. But honestly your hormones are acts wild in this age or maybe you actually are in love. But your chances are is that you should just ask her out and see how it happens. If the girl likes you back then odds are she'd dump the prick for you. Good luck mate.